pizza night for couples

Divorce is not a nice thing to hear from friends and family. It spells difficulty and defeat when it becomes the topic of conversation. However, it’s a fact of life that divorce happens in this lifetime. Hence the growth in number of many relationship and legal professionals involved in the marriage and divorce business.

In this special feature, we’ve outlined a series of advice from therapists, counselors, divorce lawyers, and even divorced couples, to give precious insights about their relationship journey. Read on and we hope this helps you whether you’re married, divorced, or single.
social media and marriage

1) “Be judicious with social media. Healthy relationships require spending time together in real life, and social media can be a hazardous distraction. Broadcasting the details (good or bad) of your relationship is a recipe for disaster.”

—Zephyr Hill, Goldberg Jones in San Diego, CA


2) “Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.”

– Gerald Rogers


3) “There is something absolutely divine — I mean, literally, the breath of God — in the ability to put someone else in your heart, to think of them first.”

– Jim, 55
pizza night for couples

4) “You have to keep it romantic. And ‘romantic’ doesn’t have to mean candles and flowers and getting all dressed up. You can bring home a pizza and make that romantic.”

Eddie, 41


5) “It’s stupidly simple advice, but it’s still solid. You don’t have to do anything extravagant. Grab a crazy Groupon deal and do something new, head off to terrible looking movie, or wander around a new park every once in a while. When things get boring the best thing you can do is change them. You’re not going to get out of a rut unless you’re willing to climb out of it.”

– Thorin Klosowski


6) “We all have fantasies in our head — it’s when you act on them, that’s the problem. If you don’t want to cheat, you must avoid putting yourself in a situation where it can happen. Duh.”

Tasha, 41
emotional decision-making

7) “Remember that the more emotional we are as human beings the more unpredictable our reactions.  Actually, the more emotional we are, the more stupid we become!”

– Elly, Couple Therapist


8) “If your Limbo Phase goes on for months, tell your kids you’re planning to divorce but working on the particulars. Reassure them that you’ll give them specifics as soon as you can.”

– Kate Scharff, Divorce Expert


9) “Decide what you’ll tell your friends, acquaintances, and extended family. Will you continue, for now, to present yourselves as a couple? Will you make your long-term plans public? Remember: whatever message you offer will make its way back to your kids.”

– Kate Scharff, Psychotherapist

exercise to help in going through divorce

10) “Work off that ‘wound up’ feeling with physical exercise. Any kind of sport – like aerobics, yoga or Tai Chi – can make a real difference.”

– Elly, Marriage Counselor


11) “Maintain some mystery in your relationship, but not where your values about money are concerned. One very sure way to doom your relationship is to ignore your respective financial habits and goals. You’ll fight and you’ll quickly cede power, become resentful, or both. And make sure you have an emergency plan — like a credit card of your own — because you never know when you’ll have to use it.”

– Casey Greenfield, Greenfield Labby, New York City

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